When Your Nervous System Is Not Safe, Change Will Always Feel Hard
by Sharn Somasiri
Many people believe they struggle with consistency, confidence, or follow through because they lack discipline.
In reality, a nervous system that does not feel safe will always prioritise protection over progress.
Procrastination Is Not Laziness. It Is a Signal.
by Sharn Somasiri
Procrastination is often misunderstood.
It is rarely about poor time management or lack of ambition. More often, it is an emotional and behavioural pattern designed to protect you from discomfort, failure, or perceived risk.
Readiness Matters More Than Motivation
by Sharn Somasiri
Motivation is unreliable. Readiness is what creates change.
Many people say they want change, but far fewer are actually ready to take responsibility for it. This is why insight often turns into frustration instead of progress.
Why You Feel Stuck Even Though You Know What To Do
by Sharn Somasiri
Many people come to coaching believing they lack discipline, motivation, or clarity.
In reality, most capable adults already know what they should be doing. They know the habits they want to build, the boundaries they need to set, and the goals they want to pursue.
Self-Abandoning In The Name Of Purpose — Reflective Questions
by Annalise Lewis
“The weight I carry is not all mine to bear; and somewhere along the way, I learnt to self-abandon as a coping strategy.”
This theme of self-abandonment keeps cropping up.
In client conversations, in community spaces, and in the pages of my own journal.
Why investing in coaching matters
by Carol Broome
When I first started offering coaching, I wasn’t entirely comfortable talking about money. Like many coaches, I wondered: shouldn’t transformation be accessible to everyone?
I still believe it should be.
Head Goals vs. Heart Goals
by Agakura Viñas Burihabwa
Many of us grew up believing that the way to know we were on the right path was through applause-through validation, praise, excitement from those around us.
A bit like the childhood game “hit the pot”:
you’re blindfolded, and the louder they cheer, the closer you know you are.
5 tips to regain focus and ease the overwhelm
by Jesca Chapman
Here are five tips to help you regain focus and ease the overwhelm, because the to-do list can sneak up fast, but there are practical ways to steady yourself…
1. Break it down
• Take that giant to-do list and chop it into bite-sized tasks.
The Overwhelming Void
by Agakura Viñas Burihabwa
Overwhelm is something that’s usually talked about in the context of thoughts around present things, like having committed to too many responsibilities or juggling too many expectations.
But recently, I was reminded of a time more than ten years ago when my overwhelm came from the opposite place:
Not from what was happening…but from what wasn’t.
"I'm not enough" vs. "It's not enough"
by Agakura Viñas Burihabwa
I deeply believe in healthy self-reflection.
In honestly assessing how we show up and owning our part.
And yet, there is a trend I’ve seen again and again in me, and in the sensitive, brilliant women I’m blessed to talk to and work with:
We turn reflection into self-punishment.
Planting Seeds: The Unexpected Way Change Really Happens
by Helena Chan
Most people think transformation starts with a big decision: a career pivot, a breakup, a move, a bold announcement.
But in reality? Change often begins with something much smaller — almost invisible.
Believe Yourself (Your compass was always yours.The maps weren't)
by Agakura Viñas Burihabwa
Believing yourself, I've come to learn, is fundamental when it comes to developing the ability to believe in yourself, and it’s a step that shouldn’t be skipped or underestimated.
Like many of the women I’ve talked to and worked with, growing up, it wasn’t unusual for our experiences to be dismissed by the adults around us.
What Really Happens When You Heal the Inner Child
by Sharn Somasiri
Inner child work is often misunderstood. Many people imagine it as revisiting childhood memories or engaging in abstract visualisations. In reality, healing the inner child is one of the most powerful, neuroscience-backed ways to transform emotional patterns that have been repeating for decades.
You’re Not “Too Much”, You’re Carrying Too Much
by Sharn Somasiri
Many people have been told their whole lives that they are “too emotional,” “too sensitive,” “too intense,” or “too dramatic.” They’ve been shamed for their reactions, criticised for their feelings, or blamed for their depth.
Burnout Isn’t About How Much You Do, It’s About How Much You Carry
by Sharn Somasiri
Burnout is often described as a workload issue, working too hard, too fast, for too long.
But if that were true, everyone working a demanding job would burn out, and they don’t. Burnout is far more complex, and far more deeply rooted in the emotional body.
Breaking Toxic Cycles Starts With Understanding the Need Beneath the Pattern
by Sharn Somasiri
Most people try to break toxic cycles by changing their behaviour. They push themselves to stop people-pleasing, stop reacting, stop overthinking, stop choosing emotionally unavailable partners, stop shutting down and when it doesn’t work, they blame themselves.
Why You Struggle to Set Boundaries And Why It’s Not Your Fault
by Sharn Somasiri
People often assume that difficulty setting boundaries comes from being “too nice,” “too soft,” or “too sensitive.”
But none of that is true.
Struggling with boundaries has very little to do with personality and everything to do with how your nervous system adapted to keep you safe.
Anxiety Isn’t the Problem, It’s the Sign
by Sharn Somasiri
Most people spend years battling their anxiety, trying to silence it, outrun it, outthink it or control it. When none of that works, they assume something is wrong with them. But anxiety isn’t a character flaw, a personal failure, or a sign of weakness.
How To Break The Anxiety–Overthinking Loop
by Sharn Somasiri
Anxiety and overthinking operate like a self-fuelling cycle. The amygdala detects a potential threat ? the mind creates scenarios ? the body reacts ? the thoughts escalate. This loop continues until something interrupts it.
Rebuilding Your Identity After Emotional Exhaustion
by Sharn Somasiri
Emotional exhaustion doesn’t just drain your energy, it erodes your sense of self. When you’ve spent months or years surviving instead of thriving, you naturally lose touch with your preferences, dreams, and confidence.