You appear calm and composed on the outside. Internally, you are exhausted, overwhelmed, and reacting in ways you cannot seem to change no matter how much you understand why.
The tension when your phone pings. The Sunday dread that starts on Friday. The conversation you replay for days. The constant juggle that never lets up.
You know what you need to change. You have known for some time. But you have not found the tools or the way to change that has actually worked for you yet.
That is what I work with.
I am Sharn Somasiri, a nervous system and boundary coach. I work one to one with women who are done understanding their patterns and want to actually change them.
We work on what you need most, at a pace that is right for you.
You will leave with a toolkit of techniques you have learned, practised, and can use in any situation that comes next.
Most approaches work on one part of the problem at a time. You talk through the thoughts. Or you work with the body. Or you explore the patterns. But none of it connects. Which is why you keep hitting the same wall.
The Four Part Reset works differently. It combines thought and behaviour change, inner child work, breathwork, and nervous system regulation as one connected method. All four parts, working together.
Each part is a portable technique you learn in session, practise with me, and keep for life. Between sessions, you have access to me via voice note, so you are not waiting a week to navigate something difficult when it comes up.
The result is not more understanding. It is a different response, in the room, in the moment, when it counts.
nervous system regulation, boundary setting, boundary coaching, emotional regulation, overthinking, people pleasing, stress and anxiety, thought patterns, behaviour change, women's coaching, high functioning women, inner child work, reaction patterns, confidence coaching, life coaching women UK
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