Have you been thinking about making a change in your career for a while but you're still in a job where you're not going anywhere?
Sometimes it's not just about not being able to figure out what steps to take when we continue to stay in a place where we no longer feel fulfilled and truly successful.
Allow me to ask you this question:
- what's your relationship with failure?
Quite often we decide to give up on transforming our careers because we have what psychologists call "cognitive dissonance": the discomfort from holding 2 conflicting beliefs, values or attitudes. Basically, on one hand we tell ourselves how much we detest our current job and how desperately we want to change; on the other hand we tell ourselves we are not good at what we are doing and will not succeed in a new job. This is very much connected with how we see failure.
If you are doing nothing about your career because of fear of failure, I invite you to reflect on a few points:
- what's your definition of success?
- what can you do to stretch yourself and be in a place where learning allows you to reach your potential?
- what support do you currently have in terms of people and resources to help you with the change you want to make?
- how can you turn your limiting belief into something that serves you?
Sometimes we get stuck because we get trapped in our fixed mindset which tells us that we need to constantly prove that we are smart, otherwise we lose our value. This is one of the ways for us to continue to choose our comfort zone and miss the opportunity to learn, to grow, to fall, to pick ourselves up and grow further.
As a little child, you put all your effort in to walk. Yes you fell many times but you didn't give up.
We all have inside a deep desire and inclination to stretch ourselves, to learn and be successful in areas we never imagined. We have just allowed fears, approval from others, expectations (from others and from ourselves) to limit us.
What action can you take today to start transforming your career?