All your judgements about yourself are temporary.

by Zahara Matovu
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I wasn't planning on sharing this, but I think it may help someone.

We can be ourselves worst critic when it comes to judging ourselves.

We may say things like, "I am not good enough, I am not fit enough, I am a mess, I never do anything right, why is it always me?" etc. We usually don't say it out loud, but we think it countless times a week or even a day. And the more we repeat these sentences to ourselves, the more we belive it, and the more it seems to be true.

I want to tell you that all these judgements are temporary. They are not your identity, they are situations that challenge you. These judgements can be changed when you become self aware.

You can start by looking at the good in yourself, no one is plain bad, there's surely something positive. You can say for example "I am trying my best, I am working out or exrecising 2-3 times a day, I am eating healthier, I am drinking a lot of water, I have the basic neccesities and I am working on where I want to be". These may not be true for you, but you can surely look for the good in yourself, what you're improving at, or what you already do well.

Changing the way you speak to yourself, from negative to positive, will help you stop identifying yourself mainly with the negative, and start believing the positive in your life, which in turn will make your life smoother and lead to change.

It's almost like an unwritten rule. The more positive you are, the more your life takes a positive turn because you look at it differently. The change you want begins within yourself, and all the judgements are temporary if you do something about them.