About Me

What if…

… you could approach people with curiosity rather than apprehension?

… you could take the evening off without feeling guilty?

… you could say no to requests without coming across as unkind/unhelpful/[insert your trigger word here]?

… you could do the things you’re scared of?

… the inner commentary criticising your every move, real or potential, wasn’t quite as loud and intrusive all the time?

… you could be YOU?

If you are curious about any of the questions above, I would love to work with you.

I’m Steph and I am a recovering people pleaser. It took me more than three decades and a burnout to acknowledge that. Plus a combination of therapy and coaching to turn the tide. Not too long ago, my inability to set boundaries with people, say no to things I did not want or did not have the capacity to do, and generally show up for myself impacted every aspect of my life. All day. Every day. 

Now I know that I can say no without being unkind. That it’s in fact kinder to say no than string people along or resent them. I’m no longer the flaky person who cancels on the day of an event because I psych myself out about making a spectacle of myself in some way, shape or form. I still feel a surge of nerves and often fear, especially in social situations. But now I know what to do when the fear is strong and the negative thoughts come.

Specialism

I help exhausted people pleasers set healthy boundaries so that they can start making their own decisions with confidence and communicate them clearly, without being unkind.

Keywords

people pleasing, boundary setting, communication, confidence, social anxiety, neurodivergence