It´s perfectly human to create a life that helps us avoid what we are most uncomfortable with. And then to learn to love the life of constant avoidance rather than create a life of our true desires.
But that´s being human.
I always had my judgement about conflicts and fights. It was very common in our family and I swore to have a different experience.
And so most of my life I made sure I avoided fights, even if that meant pleasing others, holding back my opinions, not sharing how I felt and avoiding certain people.
And in order to justify my pleasing, holding back, pretending and avoiding, I concluded that people don´t like direct, brutally open and honest people.
BUT WHAT DO I TRULY DESIRE?
Relationships without conflict and fights where I cannot be myself?
Or relationships where I can be myself and I don´t need avoid possible conflict and fights?
1. The first choice is the path of avoidance, comfort and compromise.
2. The second choice is the path of honouring my desires, being myself and loving the parts of me that feel uncomfortable.
Neither of these choices is better or worse.
But if I am being honest, I know my path.
Where in your life are you not honest about your true desires?
Where in your life have you concluded you cannot have what you desire?