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If You Are an ADHD Partner Who is Feeling Overwhelmed, You are not alone!

Coach Lianne Wessner by Lianne Wessner
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The impact of ADHD on partners and loved ones is often overlooked and deeply misunderstood. It’s no surprise that mental health issues are 50% higher among people who are in ADHD relationships.

Sometimes, you are so busy being someone else’s anchor that you don’t realize when you’re also drowning, and in need of support. Over time, this stress and overwhelm can become debilitating, severely impacting your quality of life.

But if you are someone caring for an ADHD loved one, you are not alone, and there is hope. Having a support system can help increase your emotional fitness to handle stressful relationships, so you can prevent further burnout and transform your life.


Many with undiagnosed or untreated ADHD can develop poor coping skills and have little to no awareness of the issue, or its impact on their loved ones. As a result, partners often deal with the struggles of caring for an ADHD partner alone and without understanding the root cause, which can lead to stress and self-abandonment.

It can be difficult to find resources that recognize the impact of ADHD specifically on family members. Here are a few symptoms to watch for if you are an ADHD partner:

* Apathy and withdrawal from life, friends and family
* Feeling isolated, unsupported and hopeless
* Experiencing recurring guilt and shame
* Feeling empty and drained of energy, motivation, and resilience
* Feeling overwhelmed, angry and frustrated
* Experiencing mental stress that develops into chronic physical pain

I understand from personal experience how exhausting and isolating it can be when you are in an ADHD relationship. When dealing with it in my own life, I realized I needed support and guidance to pull me out of this cycle of dysfunction.

That’s where Positive Intelligence comes into play. It’s a proven mental fitness framework that offers simple tools to manage stress and anxiety and help you regain your inner strength.

It is my goal to share this system with other women so they feel supported, validated and heard.


Positive Intelligence’s cutting-edge research is one of the latest breakthroughs in neuroscience, cognitive and positive psychology, and performance science.

The ADHD Partner Program (PQ) program is based on effective research-based tools, habits and exercises that strengthen your brain and suppress the parts of your mind that are sabotaging you. With this newfound toolkit in tow, ADHD partners can handle life’s challenges with a positive, stress-free mindset.


Most attempts at positive change fail because we don’t incorporate solid, practical habits we can maintain long-term. Developing a positive mind requires laying down new neural pathways so you can form new consistent behaviours. These behaviours will help you stay in touch with your emotions, understand your boundaries, and practice self-care.

That is exactly what my 12-week ADHD Partner Program empowers you to do.

Here is what to expect:

1. Daily Practice: The practice of coming back to yourself

15 minutes a day of app-guided exercises to help strengthen your mental muscles. These are bite-sized to fit your busy schedule and customized to your unique areas of need.

2. Weekly Focus: The work

Weekly focus videos to help inspire and energize you, so you can retain the benefits experienced during the video sessions.

3. Community Support (Week 1-7): Let’s do this together

Studies show that we are more likely to create positive change if we have a network of accountability partners in place.

Meet once a week with a small group of 3- 6 fellow ADHD partners to share questions and stay inspired. You will feel connected to a community of people who know exactly what you are going through.

4. Community Support (Week 8-12): Apply what you’ve learned together

A virtual support group meets twice a month to learn and share how to apply these frameworks and healthy habits to the everyday challenges of living in an ADHD relationship. Together we will explore the steps we can take to create the life we really want to live.

5. Measurable Progress: Monitoring your efforts

Track your progress on your wellness journey as you strengthen the three core muscles of mental fitness, with instant motivational feedback and guidance.


When you are an ADHD partner, it can be difficult to make yourself the priority and focus on your own health and well-being. Having a community and support network behind you will help you rediscover your self-worth, create healthy boundaries and coping strategies, and develop a tangible framework for navigating stressful situations.

Learn more about the impact of living with ADHD as a partner @ADHDpartnerstory

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