Are you feeling flat and unmotivated following the recent strangeness of our lives?
Or maybe you know where you want to get to, but it all seems too big and overwhelming?
Maybe you feel trapped by your current situation and feel like you've run out of options?
Or you don't want to launch your blog post, book, business, or side hustle until everything is absolutely 'perfect'?
Whatever the reason for your wanting to 'get unstuck', I'm here to help.
According to dictionary.com, the definition of 'unstuck' means to be 'freed or loosened from being fastened or stuck'.
If you feel 'stuck' in life, it can indeed feel like you are fastened down. To old beliefs and habits, or fastened to a place or person.
The good news is that 'feeling stuck' is simply that - a feeling. A feeling which, although you may not realise it, is exacerbated by your thoughts and beliefs (some of which may well be limiting).
You also may not realise it, but your thoughts and beliefs are something you have 100% control over. You can change them.
I'm not saying it's by any means easy, it's not, but it is entirely possible.
"Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong. - Mandy Hale"
Here are some signs that might point toward the fact you are feeling stuck:
*Getting angry at yourself for not progressing
*Envy and resentment towards others
*Feeling like there is no way out and you have no options
*You are struggling to make decisions
*Resentment about things that have already happened
*Wanting everything to be perfect before you take action
Do any of these resonate with you?
What Are The Reasons For Feeling Stuck?
There are many reasons why you might be feeling stuck.
First of all old habits do indeed die hard and you could be replaying a well-worn groove from the past.
This can often be due to faulty thinking or emotions which haven't been dealt with.
Another reason could be that you like your comfort zone, and there is nothing wrong with liking a bit of comfort and stability in your life.
If you stay there all the time though you are more likely to experience disappointment and a lack of fulfilment.
Perhaps you have a fear of failure. Or a fear of success.
Who you spend your time with can also be a huge influence. If the people in your life are giving off negative, toxic vibes this is undoubtedly going to rub off onto you.
You might also find you are comparing yourself with others and experiencing feelings of envy.
Perhaps you are asking yourself 'why always them and not me' or maybe you are setting yourself other boundaries like saying you don't have time to do XYZ.
Last but by no means least, it could be that your 'why' for wanting the goal or change is simply not strong enough for you to take action.
Practical Tools To Get Unstuck
Here's the bit I know you've been waiting for! Some of my favourite, practical tools to help you get unstuck.
Add these techniques to your toolbox, try a few out and find what works for you best.
Before we begin, if you feel there are no options, I have news for you, there are ALWAYS options.
Awareness is key. The first thing to do is to identify where you are stuck.
Here are some questions to ask yourself to help (you may find it useful to journal your answers).
Powerful Questions To Ask Yourself To Get Unstuck
How do I feel about my current situation?
How important to me is this REALLY?
What do I gain from staying stuck? (There has to be a payoff or you wouldn't stay stuck, right?)
What thoughts am I having? How helpful are they?
When in the past do I recall having similar thoughts or feelings?
What am I fearing will happen?
Where did this belief come from?
How likely is this to happen?
How might I think or behave differently?
If my fears did play out, what could I do to empower myself?
What would I do if I weren't afraid?
How do I stand in my own way?
How can I get out of my own way?
What could make a difference?
What would make a difference?
What's worked in the past?
How might I apply that now?
Who can I turn to for help and support?
What research could I do to help me find the first step?
What would make this more fun?
How will I celebrate/reward myself when I reach my goal?
Finally, take a deep breath and imagine yourself in 5 years time. All of this is in the past.
Looking back now, what did you do/decide that got you moving? What was the turning point?
Find Your 'Why'
Remember when I said perhaps your 'why' for wanting change isn't strong enough?
Here are some more questions to ask yourself to find your 'why' for your goal.
Once you have it, write it down and stick it somewhere prominent!
What will achieving this goal give me?
If I don't do anything what will life be like?
Does this bring me joy? If not entirely, then what elements of it do or how could I make it more enjoyable?
How does this goal fit with my values?
What strengths do I have that I could use here?
Who will achieving this goal affect?
What will be the positive impacts of achieving this goal?
How does this goal fit with other priorities in my life?
Find A Coach Or Mentor
Working through the questions above by yourself can definitely help, but talking things through with someone impartial can really help you crystalise things in your mind.
The power of working with a coach or a mentor should not be underestimated! Shoot me a message and book your free session now!