‘A person is limited only by the thoughts he chooses.’ James Allen
Your thoughts determine your feelings, behaviours, and reality. Negative thoughts lead to a downward spiral into an abyss of self-sabotage, procrastination, frustration, and addiction. Nothing ruins your chances of finding a great job, leading a fantastic life, or feeling fulfilled. Pessimism will shut out your goals and stifle your creativity. Hopelessness is the graveyard of dreams. Despair is the scrap heap of broken deeds.
Every unfinished application, that email that was started but deleted. The incomplete CV. The telephone call you should have made but didn’t. All of it can be traced back to cynicism. The ‘what’s the point anyway’ attitude, ‘I’ll never get the job’, ‘I’m too inexperienced.’ And on and on it goes the carousel of bleak narratives, woven over time, threading through everything you start, but never quite finish.
You will become what you think. Choose your words carefully. Yes, you should express yourself authentically. However, being overly negative about yourself is inauthentic. Your body and mind are filled with abundance. You’re literally a success making machine. Everything inside of you, right down to a single working cell, is a wonder. From the long tight coils of your DNA, to the grey matter locked between your ears, are all real-life examples of working miracles. There’s nothing like you, and there never will be.
Far from being a cliché, it’s surprisingly true! From our extreme punishing habits, to our detail driven inaction, it’s all created by what we think and what we speak into our lives. Once you understand you’re much more than your thoughts, you take back control.
Eliminating negativity is a habit you cultivate. Firstly, notice the narrative. What exactly do you say to yourself? Don’t judge it or ignore it just allow it to be. Become an objective spectator of your own thoughts. Rise above the thought itself. Thinking about thinking is known as metacognition. Meta meaning above. Once you start practicing, you quickly realise that you’re the one who’s in charge.
Your brain is like a wild, mischievous chimpanzee. Leave it to its own devices, and it will swing from one branch of speculative rumination to another. Mindfulness is about harnessing a strong sense of self awareness. Not destroying thoughts completely but developing a harmonious relationship with your thinking.
You are what you think you are, but you can choose what you think, and become the person you want to be.