Do you ever feel like you are playing a supporting role in your own life?
I’m here to tell you, you can change that. Sometimes, many women can feel like they are not the star of their own lives. This can happen for a number of reasons. Becoming a mother, supporting your partner with his goals over your own, feeling like a sidekick to your beautiful friend.
Women, often put other people on a pedestal. Whether it’s a celebrity like the Kardashians or a musician you like. But let me ask you one question:
What would happen if you put yourself on your own pedestal?
I did an experiment to find out. For one month, I decided to become the celebrity of my own life.
1) What do you really want?
For one month, I asked myself this question everyday. Not what other people want. Just you. Kind people look after other people, not always realizing they have their own needs too. Sometimes it can feel selfish, but I’m here to tell you it’s not. Start with small things. For example, one day, I decided I wanted to be beautiful, and pulled out my most beautiful dress and wore red lipstick. Another day, I went to Starbucks simply because I hadn’t been to Starbucks for over a year. Give yourself permission to make yourself happy. If you have been waiting forever for your partner to give you flowers, buy them yourself. A lot of people without realizing it, are waiting for someone else to make them happy. But really, that’s your job.
2) The lights never turn green
Here’s the thing, when you are waiting for something or someone, you could end up waiting forever. Or perhaps you think, I will do that thing when I finally get that promotion, or when I lose those last few pounds. You are putting conditions on your own happiness. I say, be happy now. Don’t wait. Do the things you love now.
3) Be the celebrity of your own life
At first, I did the obvious things, like changing my hair colour or having a facial. But as time went on, it became less about materialistic things and more about standards and boundaries. I treated myself better and over time, I had higher standards. But in doing so, I also taught others how to treat me. If someone tried to cut in the queue at the store I reminded her, there is a queue and pointed her to the back. I also had calls from recruiters about roles, but as the job market is bad, a couple of them tried to low ball me. I politely reminded them that I’m not a 20-year-old and that I have many years’ experience, and declined the low salaries. Ultimately, it’s about respect. Respect for yourself and teaching others how to respect you. And walking away from people who don’t respect you.
I have to say the month was a lot of fun. I dressed up, ate tasty foods, went on new adventures. I looked my best and felt my best and it has done wonders for my confidence.
Often with life coaching, people think they need a dramatic change to change their life. But the secret is lots of small changes you can make on a daily basis. It’s those things that really make a difference. But I also understand that making changes can be hard. By turning it into a game, I had fun and made lasting changes too.
If you would like me to work with you to become the celebrity of your own life. Please do get in touch. My first session is free. It's time to step out of the shadows and into the limelight.